The irony in this site is that I have tried so hard not to let being a “widow” define who I am, and yet my domain name is centered around that very fact. Widowhood is most certainly not something I have embraced. Yet, whether I like it or not, it is the angle that provides much of the back story and the life event that influences much of my writings. This blog, however, is not about being a widow, or dealing with cancer, or coping with grief, although there will be elements of all, or none, of those in my posts. It is about life. And learning to accept that life is a gift, even when the path seems a burden.
My intent for this blog is to provide content that will make you laugh, make you cry, but above all, make you think. Many of the writings I will share, especially my early ones dealing with John’s cancer and subsequent death are quite raw. Right or wrong they were my thoughts and feelings. You do not have to agree with anything I write and are free to comment to the contrary. My one request is that you do so respectfully.
I was told by one of my good friends that realism is not encouraging. We chuckled at the thought that either of us, who are both too realistic in approach, could be much encouragement to anyone. But as I have since reflected, I am beginning to disagree.Reality can be encouraging. Life is tough, there is no doubt. It is often “unfair” or “unrelenting” or even “unforgiving” by the world’s standard. But to learn to move forward, one step at a time, through the muck, that IS encouraging.
Encouragement is not about cheesy quotes and floral backgrounds sprouting inspirational sayings. Encouragement comes from watching a person climb from the rubble or limp across the finish line because he or she refuses to give up no matter how many times they are knocked down. That is the reality of life. And if you look at the many blogs, it is these people who are fighting against the grain and staying slightly above the landslide that are generating followers. Because learning to cope with the harsh reality of life IS more encouraging than throwing a momentary floral quote at it.